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is everyone lying to you?

Has anyone ever said to you something along the lines of: “Wow, thank you for listening. You’re a great listener!” “I love that top you’re wearing. It looks great on you!” “You have such a knack for helping others!” And you respond with: “Oh, no I’m really not.” “This old thing? It’s been sitting in my closet for years.” “Really, it’s no big deal.”

But, WHY?

Why can’t we just take it in, own it, and say, “Thank you?”

Is everyone lying to us? Saying things about us that aren't true?

No. We are deflecting.

Deflecting stems from a belief that we aren’t good enough.

And any form of not good enough (not smart enough, not pretty enough, not outgoing enough, not ____enough) stems from information we received and processed as children.

Just like me at the age of six when three friends of mine who I played with every single day, didn’t ring my doorbell one Saturday morning to play kickball with them.

My six year old interpretation was: I'm not liked, something is wrong with me, I'm not good enough.

As a result, I’ve spent my life both simultaneously believing I'm not good enough and trying hard to prove otherwise.

Can we just say, exhausting?

It wasn’t until the age of 25 that I began to re-wire these unhelpful beliefs.

If you have a passion to be self-employed, doing work that makes a difference in the lives of others, and you’re unsure if you can actually do it, I can almost guarantee that underneath there is a form of “I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH.” It lurks within the subconscious so it tends to be something we aren’t conscious of.

If you’re the type of person who wants to dig down deep into the subconscious and pursue your Non-Nine-to-Five purpose I invite you to connect with me for a complimentary 1-Hour Clarity Call.

What is a 1-Hour Clarity Call?

Since its inception in 2013 I have kept a few 1-Hour Clarity Call slots open on my calendar each month for private complimentary time with me via phone to support you in sharing what you are struggling with and seeing if the in-depth support I offer is a match for you.

Why would you want to connect with me?

To connect with a self-employed expert who will listen to what is on your mind, to get support, to be seen and heard, and to see if investing in high-level support is a match for you.

If this is something that you feel like you want to do but are unsure, I urge you to absolutely click the link, fill out an application, and take me up on my offer.

Seeing you Successfully Self-Employed,

- Jen

P.S: While July is closed for complimentary 1-Hour Clarity Call, August has 3 slots open. Fill out your application so we can connect.


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